so i am not even out yet and i feel as though i have already lost my best friend.. i asked her if i could use her as a reference on an apartment rental if i decide to go the route of separation from my husband.
she knows all of what i went through in my marriage and how much pain and suffering that i have endured.. at first she said yes, no problem, then she asked if i would be speaking to the elders about it, and i said no, she asked why not, i said that is my choice to do or not do.. her response was that i pray and speak to the elders and that she thinks it best that i don't use her as a reference because she would feel that she was supporting my decision to separate.
i said fine but i also said that her response seems to be more of a concern about me speaking to the elders rather than being concerned for my well being.
LostInNJ83>>>>>Your friend sounds like she flip-flops as much as The Society ( tm ) does. lol Sad to face that reality though.
Good job, thinking of references! You'll think of someone else. The really good thing LostInNJ87, is you are thinking and making decisions and moving forward. Yay ! and 3 gold stars, because you are a good girl, and life sucks sometimes, and you are going through a lot!
Just Lois
i was just thinking the other day how small our family is now that we aren't jw's.
we are thankful that we at least have our children!
my husband lost his mom and dad and only sister and her husband and all their children.
StrawberryFieldsForever. (I love your name. Makes me think of a different life, a long time ago).
I lost me.
With the RX, medicinal value I receive from this site, I am recovering, and finding, my old happy, fun loving, bouncy, self. Yay for me!
I was lost. Now I am found. Kind of a catchy tune. Maybe someone will write a song about that, one of these days. lol
So I've got me and my youngest daughter, thinking...thinking...yes! That's about it! lol
Did I say I used to have friends and acquaintances and family all over the world? Umm , I think so. Have I posted and said I am a born in and am 63 years old so I have been an active recruiter and seat warmer, for 6 decades? Did I say I like people?
So I lost me, I found me, and I've got lots of livin ' to do. You know what they say. If you're not busy living...why the heck not?
Just Lois Enjoying Another Beautiful Day in Paradise On Earth Now
hi everyone, i have been on here for a little while and haven't introduced myself to you.
i can't tell you how much all of you have helped me sort many things out in my mind.. i was raised in a very good christian home and married my hs sweetheart.
i left home and moved half way across the country with a husband and a brand new baby.
WhoLovesMagic>>>>>Welcome. We hope you will find true refreshment for your soul. It is an exhilarating feeling to be here on JW.net with others, who have learned TTATT. We are from all over the world and we don't want to be lied to, or treated badly anymore.
Now that you are signed in, jump in whenever you feel comfortable. Maybe start a new thread and tell us how things have been. Or not. Whatever you feel you want to share. No pressure here. At your time. When you are ready.
We are very happy to have you here.
Just Lois
i want to share with you, things your husband can demand from you, because, well he is the man and you are not.
i don't know if you have read about jw's sex lives and what is allowed and isn't.. no oral for anybody.
no masturbation for anybody.
GL Tirebiter>>>>>Oops. I am truly sorry, Sir. My mistake.
I know there are 100's of 1,000 of wonderful men that are baptized JW husbands. I thought I would have one of those myself. But that marriage never took place.
The man I loved, was tall and handsome, and had a fun personality, a good dresser, a good dancer. He made me laugh. He made me happy. He smelled nice.
The woman he married, I am sure he treated like a Queen and she treated him like a King. Even though I have not seen him for years and years, I hope he has the best marriage. He has been married for 44 years. He is an Elder. He sits on JC's. He is a real, normal, kind man. I can't see him as anything but.
He loves Jehovah and he loved me. Once, long ago.
Just Lois
i want to share with you, things your husband can demand from you, because, well he is the man and you are not.
i don't know if you have read about jw's sex lives and what is allowed and isn't.. no oral for anybody.
no masturbation for anybody.
LozHasLeft>>>>>It is wonderful to hear your "after" story and that it is a happy, successful one.
Just Lois
i want to share with you, things your husband can demand from you, because, well he is the man and you are not.
i don't know if you have read about jw's sex lives and what is allowed and isn't.. no oral for anybody.
no masturbation for anybody.
GL Tirebiter>>>>>When I read the rest of your post which is funny and oh so true. I kind of zone out. They are not/were not the happiest of times.
Too much is flooding my memory banks and I don't want to cry, so I am trying to figure out something funny to make the pain go away.
OK OK I got it. What if I say when I first got married, my husband had only old bachelor clothes, with soup stains and boogers on his ties.
Nothing he had, fit him well, did anything for him. No taste, no class, no vision.
He had to get new clothes. He took me where he always shopped. Men's Ware Wear Well. The store was the kind of store where you buy funeral clothes for your relative who isn't going to leave you anything. Just so that you get the picture.
I took him to the main professional men's store in the city and the men there, started turning my pigs ear purse, into something, beautiful.
It might sound silly, but that is one of the things I miss about being divorced. Picking out men's suits, shirts, ties, knowing the brand names that made my ex shine.
There, I feel better.
Vacation shouldn't be about getting dressed up to sit all day in an arena, listening to Bible talks. Husbands, that is not vacation.
Hey Willllmmmmmlmaaaaaa. Have you got our boxed lunches ready? Not just yet, Fred.
( FacePalm ) Shaking head.
Just Lois
i want to share with you, things your husband can demand from you, because, well he is the man and you are not.
i don't know if you have read about jw's sex lives and what is allowed and isn't.. no oral for anybody.
no masturbation for anybody.
GL TireBiter>>>>>You are a funny lady!
Imagine for your saved up vacation, you get to go to the District Convention! Oh Boy!
What Happens If you Do Not Have An Elder In Your Family
We get to stay in a hotel! But not the up close, can walk to the Convention hotel, not that really nice one. The hotel on the Society's approved list. (You know, the ones they get the biggest kick backs from).
You didn't get your 1st or 2nd or 3rd pick, of hotels? They are booked up? The Elders booked them up already? But we aren't supposed to book anything, until the letter is read at the Hall and our meeting is Friday night. What? You were already booked up Monday night? Oh.
Just Lois
i went to shut my door ( it has ice in the ledge) i shoved it with my side ugh!!!.
if i laugh or cough i near die with pain.i went to the hospital for xrays.
it is a torn muscle.
Baba Yaga>>>>>Beautiful Tom Jones, no matter what age.
Just Lois
i went to shut my door ( it has ice in the ledge) i shoved it with my side ugh!!!.
if i laugh or cough i near die with pain.i went to the hospital for xrays.
it is a torn muscle.
FlyingHighNow>>>>>Dreamy-Beautiful-Serene
Gorgeous
Thank you
Just Lois
i went to shut my door ( it has ice in the ledge) i shoved it with my side ugh!!!.
if i laugh or cough i near die with pain.i went to the hospital for xrays.
it is a torn muscle.
Score: Granny Mouthy: 0
Frozen Ontario door frame: 1
Latest hint Granny gives all of us, her kids and Grand kids:
Do not try to shut a frozen Ontario door with your 85 year old hip! lol
Just Lois saying Nite, nite Granny Grace. I hope you feel better in the morning. We love you.
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